The practices

This site will teach you some really simple practices that you might recognise from yoga and other places, but used in a completely different way. I have refined these practices over a number of years and they have completely transformed how I experience orgasms. I can’t predict your results and I don’t think for a moment I am anywhere near the end yet. There has rarely been a day where I have been disappointed by the experience.

Overall this is a meditation-like practice used to train your body and mind to invoke orgasmic sensations outside their usual context. The practices should be equally applicable to male, female or anywhere in between, though my experience is from a male perspective.

This practice seems to turn everything you know about orgasm on its head. In this practice less is often more, slower is often better, things imagined often become real, other things just happen on their own, all of which make it quite interesting.

It is made up of a number of different parts;

With these tools you may start a personal journey of discovery into how the muscles of the pelvic floor deliver the sensations of orgasm and how you can retrain your body and mind to let you experience those sensations outside the usual context.

I have been on this journey for around seven years, I hope to be able to save you a lot of time by explaining what I have discovered about my body, and what the effective practices are.

Firstly, really slight touch.

To begin with we will just practice with your nose. So, touch your nose with your index finger. This is going to teach you to focus on a very small area of touch. This practice is really about less is more. Close your eyes and just notice where you are touching the end of your nose.

Make the touch gradually lighter and lighter, until you are barely dragging the fingerprint over the smallest possible area of nose that you can still feel. The roughness of a fingerprint over possibly one nerve ending in a distraction free environment fully concentrated on just that tiny contact is the context where the reprogramming starts to occur. Move your finger slightly away from your nose, try to still imagine the touch, even when the finger isn’t making contact anymore. Practice sometimes touching sometimes imagining sometimes not being sure for a few minutes. This is the degree of touch you are going to use later. That’s three of the skills required for this practice mastered already: touch, awareness and imagination. Next, we need to learn the breathing practice, it helps focus the mind even more on the touch and the outbound breath facilitates the neuroplasticity where the brain builds new connections between stimulation and the sensation we imagine.

Secondly Ujjayi pranayama.

You can look this up on the web if you want more information. Some versions are more complicated than others but we are keeping it simple here. Take a full breath in just like you normally would.

When you breathe out, slightly constrict your throat and exhale at a steady, constant pace. Don’t strain at the end—just let the breath run out naturally, then breathe in normally again. Close your eyes and focus on the slight sound, faint as a baby snoring, of the outgoing breath. You are aiming for a comfortably long, slightly constricted, even outward breaths and normal inward breaths Practise this for a while, stay listening to the sound as you breathe out, until you can do it comfortably without having to think about it. Don’t forget to open your eyes to read the rest of the instructions.

Thirdly You guessed it, the first two things at the same time.

Continue with the breathing with your eyes closed and touch your nose again. Ever so lightly, just as before. This time instead of listening to the outbound breath feel the end of your nose during the outbound breath. Move your finger or head very slightly to provide just the slightest hint of touch. Notice how the breath seems to amplify the sensation at the tip of your nose as you exhale and that there is a fine line between imagining the sensation and it actually being there? You might feel like you are losing track of everything else except the tip of your nose during the outbound breath too, this is good, this is where we want to go.

With practice, you are aiming to bring your total awareness into that touch and nothing else, imagine your whole consciousness is sinking into the experience of that touch alone.

Fourthly pelvic floor exercises.

The remaining parts of the practice are the pelvic floor exercises or Kegel exercises, you can look them up on the web too if you need, these days there’s probably even an app that I am not even pocketing referrer revenue for. As with the breathing we are not going to overcomplicate, but keep it just as simple as we need it for our purposes.

If you look up these exercises you are going to find that they are likely to start with clenching the muscle in your groin that you would if you were trying to stop the flow of urine. We will start there too, but we will proceed in our own direction.

As an example of what we want to achieve first clench your fist, fingers as tight as you can, also tense your whole arm, you find you can do that for a short time, but soon the muscles start to tremble a bit and you start to lose your mental grip on them. Relax, we only did that by way of an example of what we need to get the pelvic floor muscles to do.

Identifying the pelvic floor muscles to start with.

Clench the pelvic floor muscle (the one you’d use to stop urine flow) as tightly as possible. Hold it until it trembles. Notice how you lose your mental grip over it. If you do this every day you will start to find you can hold this clench comfortably for longer periods of time and while you do that you will feel other muscles start to tremble. You will find you can move the clench from the muscle you started on to the one that’s now trembling a little.

Moving from muscle to muscle.

Once you can start to hold the clench without having to think about it too much you can start to include the breathing as well. Bringing your entire focus not to the muscle that you have clenched but to its neighbour who is trembling a little. You will find that bringing all your awareness to this next muscle will give you the ability to move the clench to it. Now you might find that instead of their only being one muscle that you can voluntarily clench there are now two. This is not quite like choosing which finger to bend but more a sense that you can hold the new muscle as well.

I think of this as the trail blazing, it seems to help to have the muscles of the pelvic floor better mapped into the brain if we are going to get them to work for us. This is the strategy for exploring the muscles fibres of the pelvic floor one by one. For me this has been a fascinating journey on its own which will be described more in its own section.

What this does.

It seems that two things happen with this, you may find muscles and nerves that when tensed give sensations that are usually part of an orgasm, and secondly these muscles become more available to the suggestion of an orgasm in a more meditative state without the usual levels of external stimulation, which if you are male is without arousal, erection, ejaculation, or refractory period. If you are female, it’s more about deepening awareness and sensitivity.

I should point out again that this is a LONG-TERM project. Consider it a new hobby, give it an hour a night when you go to bed. If you achieve the mental engagement, the ability to focus your awareness in the outbound Ujjayi breath and lose yourself even momentarily totally into the sensation you are feeling from the clench then you will be off to a good start on this journey.

If this sounds like the sort of thing you have the time interest and patience for please read on. In the next section I will discuss in more detail how the practice works.

There will be more detailed anatomical descriptions so an 18+ disclaimer applies to that page.

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